So about a week ago the hammer fell: my husband says that he loves me, I am his best friend but he is unhappy. Apparently there are things about me that are driving him crazy:
- I talk a lot – very true
- I talk about health matters too much – true too
- I am selfish/not as empathetic as I should be: some truth to that but I wouldn’t go as far as to say I am selfish
He says he wants to work on it, and save it while at the same time a little part of him wants out. Needless to say this scared the crap out of me. I am going to counseling to work on those problems. He says he will work on his patience (because he isn’t as patient with me or anybody as he should be). And work on how condescending/mean he can be (namely thanks to drinking, which he is actively backing off of).
I want to know if you guys and gals think there is hope. He knew all my personality flaws long before he married me. He said something along the lines of he “thought he could handle it”. I said we made a vow for better or for worse. After several days of talking, 2 nights ago we were dancing around in the living room and he said when I “let my hair down”, have confidence and dance around smiling and happy that I shine brighter than gold. He does still send little text emojis with the heart eyes. Our sex life is great. It seems like he still loves me. If love is still there, and I work on my end, do you think there is hope for this marriage to be saved?
Thoughts?
*edit: We have shared things with each other that we have never told anybody else. He still looks at me with love, even though I get on his nerves a lot apparently. His family loves me and vice versa. He says at this point take it one day at a time. He doesn’t spend time away, he is home every night. I feel like if he was done he would already be gone or at least be home late every night.
Also, if ya’ll think there is hope, do you have advice to give? How do I fight th