NO. Marriage counseling almost never works because by the time a couple seeks counseling they’re not looking to make it work anymore, they just want permission to divorce.
They’ve already done everything they can think of, they now have an irreconcilable contempt for one another and they have to say they tried everything before they can go to their family and friends and tell everyone they are separating!
Marriage counseling just prolongs the inevitable.
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Fights, disagreements, clashes are an inherent part of any marriage, like love and romance.
Problems arise when fights extend, or climb the ladder of disagreement and reach towards immense anger and frustration.
We as a couple also fight and disagree a lot, especially because we are two very different people, almost opposite.
Everytime we get into a fight and one of us realizes that there is no end point, or point of resolution, we show a time out sign to the other person.
This is the sign, and I learnt it from my wife and I don’t know where did she learn this from, but she has been doing this from ever since I know her-
The sign depicts: “no more discussions, the fight has been abruptly ended to maintain love and peace.”
It’s a rule that the other person would respect the terms of the game of fight, just like any other wrestling competition.
Interventions like this help in avoiding an unnecessary build up of emotions, it gives both time to calm down and sort out the matter with patience.
Such mutual rules, help a marriage to succeed and love to grow.