You aren’t gaining weight because of natural age issues, pregnancy etc. You gained because you are uncontrollably eating unhealthy things due to emotional issues. You do not want a partner who supports that. You want a partner who supports you being healthy and balanced. You deserve to feel healthy and balanced. Continue with the apps, be SURE therapy is in the mix. You do not need weight medicine to fix this for you… you need healthy habits, a calm mind and a balanced life.
I’m 100% sure If op said her husband was overweight and she cut off all affection and was distant from him, the comments would be like “yes girl you deserve better leave his outta shape fat ass., blah, blah, blah.”
It’s like women can have standards but men can’t? Men just gotta accept any ol thing now.
Regarding how he handled it,(he didn’t yell or degrade her) he told her in love that I want you to be healthy and to watch your weight. What’s wrong with wanting a healthy partner?